Dating a partner with hiv

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I am HIV positive, but it is undetectable, which means I am one of the estimated 30 percent of the 1.2 million people living with HIV in the United States who cannot transmit the virus.Undetectable means is that the amount of HIV virus in my blood cannot be detected by a lab test.Taking care of your health is more adult than playing house with a boyfriend, yet, even though I had been tested for STIs, I had never thought of getting an HIV test.But one day, randomly, I added the HIV rapid test to the list of things to do before intake to my pap smear appointment.When a person goes on treatment — I take one pill a day — undetectable is the goal.Staying on treatment and keeping my viral load at undetectable levels means that I'm going to lead a long healthy life.I kept asking the nurse who took me upstairs at the Margaret Sanger Center in the East Village for a second blood test to confirm the rapid test result.I was in shock that simply sleeping with probably close to a hundred men throughout my 20s — in college, in Rome, Italy where I lived for five years, in New York City upon my return — and not being strict about using condoms could have such a serious consequence.

grown up, because I had never even been tested for HIV at my yearly checkup at Planned Parenthood, where I went for primary care.I thought it was a formality I should finally take care of.The positive result almost didn't compute at first.There was a positive aspect to my HIV, though I didn't know that then.It woke me up and made me realize what I needed and wanted from a partner.

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