Insecurity in dating relationship
She’s more aware of your texts and missed calls than you are. Solicited compliments have no real value, but she feeds on them.If she finds any porn or — oh, shit — that you’ve visited a dating site (even if it was just a pop-up ad), you are screwed. If you’re doing something without her, she’ll probably “let” you, but you’re going to hear about how she feels left out.In this week’s Love Essentially, published yesterday in Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press, I give tips for coping with jealousy and insecurity. Because the relationship seems so perfect, and because they feel they have a lot to lose should things end, it’s natural for people to experience fear and vulnerability in serious relationships.Two Words That Will Surely Ruin Your Amazing Romantic Relationship by Jackie Pilossoph It’s every girl’s definition of bliss. While these emotions are understandable – even healthy, they can unleash two things that lurk at the edges of every relationship: jealousy and insecurity.We’re always checking women out, but unless you’re a complete douche, you’re probably not drooling with your eyes popping out of your head, and that’s basically what she’s accusing you of.
But she’s not bringing anything to the table, and you’ll get bored pretty quickly.
Here are four things you can do to minimize jealousy and insecurity in your relationship: 1. Staying in shape is great for both physical and mental health. Looking well groomed and put together not only makes it obvious that you care, but when you feel pretty, you give off a confident and self-assured attitude that doesn’t happen when you’re wearing yoga pants and your hair is in a ponytail. And when you love who you are, others love you too. What if he gets back together with his ex-girlfriend? Also, there is nothing sexier to both men and women than self-assurance, confidence, seeing that your spouse has faith in you and the relationship, and not wavering.
Countless benefits of hitting the gym and the juice bar include improved sleep, minimizing mood swings, weight loss, improved immune system, cardiovascular health and better self-confidence. Have the confidence and belief that things with the two of you will work out. Dealing with jealousy and insecurity isn’t easy…Click here to read the rest of the column, published yesterday in Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press! Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling.
The ultimate move was when she bent down to pick up a napkin her child dropped on the floor, revealing her fire engine-red thong. No one can predict the future or the person they are dating. Believe in him or her and the strength of what the two of you have.
But, what you do have complete control over is you. Volunteer work, acts of kindness, showing love to your friends and family, and staying well read and educated are all ways to precipitate liking and loving yourself. Don’t doubt it and don’t play the “what if” game – What if he loses interest?